Why I’m A-Okay Leaving My Kids for a Work Trip
Kinda a gutsy title right? I know conventional mama in me is like “oh no way” and the passionate business owner is like, “Yes, this is good.” So let me elaborate on what I mean and why I’ve said it before I get a lot of comments are being a good mom.
Nearly 9 hours without children under my feet now. I don’t know that I can remember going that long ever since having kids. I am up high above the earth right now as I make my way to a leadership convention in Scottsdale, AZ. Let me back up 18 hours ago when I was a mess of tears and swollen eyes and trying to decide how I could cancel my trip.
I think most moms must experience this the first time they leave their children for an extended time. I have left my children in the past, but it was in the care of my husband. It wasn’t easy but I took great comfort knowing they were in the loving arms of the best dad in the world. I swear I think he does a better job than me most times. Like many families, he is the fun one and I am the one barking at them to do their homework and get to bed.
This trip was different though. Though my husband will be with our kids in the evening, they will be cared for mostly by a trusted friend (when the 3 older ones aren’t in school). So this is the first official time we have left them with someone other than family. Let me tell you, last night that sank in on a whole new level and I was a mess.
So where am I going on this work trip and why is it so important that I go and leave my kids?
I had to take a hot shower and ponder this myself. I can occasionally lose myself in emotions but I think I am very good at bringing myself back to earth. I am among the top 10% of coaches within my company that have even been afforded the honor of making this trip. It is a privilege and a blessing. There are many who have busted their butts to make it here- some achieved their goal- many did not. There are coaches across the country and world who would love the opportunity to be a part of the event I am about to go on. When I acknowledged that and saw the blessing for what it was and who it was who got me here (nothing but the grace of God), then I became calm. Shockingly calm and at peace- knowing that my kids would be fine and we would all be stronger because of this.
First Date Discussions
When I met my husband and we were on our very first date, he asked me what I wanted to do with my life. I very bluntly and honestly said I wanted to get married and have kids- not the conventional answer these days, but that was what was in my heart. So when I found myself as the CEO of a small business with 4 small kids under my feet, I wasn’t quite prepared to take on all that that entailed. Thankfully I catch on fast and my personality is fairly laid back.
Was it right to get on a plane and leave my 4 small children in the care of multiple providers? Heck yes! I don’t have to do stuff like this often and I can always bring my kids should I choose. Taking one trip away is a drop in the bucket to what many families do- some with parents working 40-60 hours a week and never getting to spend as much time with their kids as they’d like. It is only because of Beachbody that we get to spend the time together as a family that we do. I count it as an honor to attend this event which will help me grow and will help me be a better leader for my team as well as for my family- watch me!
I miss my 4 little minions. They make me crazy, happy, forgetful and proud. I know that these separations are never easy for moms or dads but you have to admit it makes you appreciate all of the hugs, kisses, tears, laughter and fun. It may even have you missing the backtalk, eye rolls and food throwing… Nah 😀
Look mama, you do what you have to do to make things work for your family. It may not be the norm. People may judge. But you know in your heart what is right and good for you and your family. Go out there and get it!
I once ready a blog about the Proverbs 31 woman – she was a worker. She provided. She did business. She brought joy to her home, but she was also a blessing to the community. That’s what I want. I think we can have it all. Remember that your faith, your husband, your kids come first. Do what is right and good for them and the rest will fall into place.
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