Ok, can I let you in on a little secret?
#5 wasn’t planned.
There, I said it. The reason I say this is because it’s the first and ONLY question people ask when they find out you are having #5. Now, I am not saying #5 isn’t wanted. I want this baby as much as I wanted my other 4.
#5 just happens to be the best surprise I’ve ever gotten.
Well. . . I guess I have to set things straight on that one. See, my husband and I have never done anything to prevent life, so saying it was a complete surprise is not entirely true either. In fact, I can say with certainty that that night we knew there was a good chance of creating life.
What can I say, it’s part of the thrill 😀
After I had my fourth baby, I had MANY people very soon after he was born ask, “Are you done??” I guess it’s a fair question though admittedly a little annoying. I mean, come on, we cause quite a commotion sometimes. But, on the other hand, what’s it to you if I have 10 kids? I mean, we can afford to take care of them. I always knew I wanted a big family. I have created a business centered around working out of my home so my kids never go without. And my husband is incredibly helpful both in the home and as a provider.
The only response I ever gave was “I’ll never say never!” And it’s probably the response I’ll give after this baby is born. My husband are in agreement and take each day as it comes. So far we feel nothing but blessed and when things get stressful, God always provides the help we need.
I know that people will talk. When this baby is born, I will be 36 and have a 9, 7, 5 and 2 yr old.
Oh – that does sound nuts! You’ll find me hanging out with all the 20 something’s who are having their first babies! Lol! I’ll be the ‘old’ mom!
It’s all good though. I know how blessed I am. I’ve only ever wanted to be a mom, and I think I’ve done it well. I never thought I would work again but here I am, the CEO and owner of my own company. CEO | Mom of Five – I think that’ll look great on a business card, ya think?
How do you like that?
I know that when I open myself up to God’s plan and try not to get too much into my own head and my own understanding, His way is always better. I like this life way more than the life we had when were childless, deep in debt and both working full time jobs. Personally, I hated my 9-5 and the awful people I worked for (in case you are an old boss reading this, it wasn’t you- it was your crazy assistant at that DC job). There I said it! I still work with crazy- but at least I gave birth to them.
Something that I am weirdly excited for is the process. I enjoy the transformation of pregnancy. Working out while pregnant is completely different than when you aren’t. And then you have the process of getting back into shape after. I don’t LOVE that, but I do love the challenge and seeing that the human body has muscle memory and that the better shape you are in before will help you afterwards.
There are lots of things you can say to a pregnant lady.
Asking if she planned the pregnancy – no matter how many kids she has is kind of tacky. A close second to that is asking whether or not she’ll have any more. Let’s remember, we are not all alike. If you want no kids or only 2 kids, it’s not my business to inquire as to why you feel that way. I admit, I feel a little bad for the couple who choose just to have one. Just being real, so don’t judge me and I won’t judge you. Likewise, if I want 20, let it be my business. I don’t need you to tell me I’m crazy- I already know.
Just say ‘congratulations’. Treat others like you want to be treated. That’s really all you ever need to do to be happy in this world. Making others feel inferior just makes you look bad. On that note, I have to say, the overwhelming kind words from others has been incredible.
And the good comments far outweigh the few that make me want to punch you.
Thank you so much! You brighten my day!